Noah St. John's blog today reminded me that it is often when we help others that we are best able to achieve what we want.

It is common for us to focus on our wants, we want more money, we want more happiness, we want more love, we want, we want, we want.  How much time do we spend thinking about what other people want?

When I think about it, it is exactly what Napoleon Hill says in his book "How to Win Friends and Influence People". 
  1. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  2. Talk in terms of the other person's interest.
  3. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
  4. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
  5. Let the other person feel the idea is his or hers.
  6. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
  7. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
  8. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say "You're Wrong."
This advice is all about thinking about other people in order to accomplish what we want.


I was once admonished by a friend that if I would spend more time helping other people get what they wanted, I would have more than enough of what I wanted.

A great leader is also a humble servant.

How can I help you get what you want?