When reading this, I have also recently thought about the fact that if I have the energy to scold my child, or yell at my wife, I should also have the energy to love them.
For example, I have caught myself resting on the couch and my son or wife might want some attention from me and I am reluctant because I feel tired. Though, if my son does something "wrong" all of a sudden I have the energy to jump up and correct him.
It was really striking to me how my priorities seem a little off balance. Why, all of a sudden, do I have energy when my son does something "wrong", though when all he want is me to play with him, or love him, that I say I'm too tired?
Realizing this, I now do my best to use that filter when my son wants to play. I ask myself, am I really so tired that even if he does something I don't approve of that I will let it slide, then if that is true then I can also continue my resting. If I realize that I have enough energy to scold him, than I surely have enough energy to play with him.
Zig Ziglar tells a similar story about how you have a day where everything seems to go wrong. You wake up and there is no hot water. You go to your car and it has a flat tire. On the way to work, you run into a major traffic jam. When you get to work, your assistant isn't there, so you have to do double work all day. Finally when you get home, you are so tired, your wife approaches and says how she is so happy to see you since you had already agreed to help her clean the house today. You profess that you can't take another step and then your friend calls and says the if you can come over in 15 minutes, they have front row tickets to a game or concert and you are out the door in 5 minutes.
Why did you all of a sudden have energy for "fun" and not for your wife/family? How can we either create energy all the time, or classify time with our loved ones as "fun", or classify "work" as "fun"?
For my wife and son, I have a method where I ask myself, if I have enough energy to scold or argue with them, then I surely first can use that energy to play and love them. How do I transfer that mindset to work? I have instances when I just avoid work and surf the web. How can I tell myself, "If you have time to surf the web, then you have time to do work?"